Pros and Cons of Being Married in Each Season

Before you go picking your venue, wedding gown, bridesmaid dresses, and decorations, you and your fiancé need to pick a date.  It’s not always that easy of a decision.  Weddings and traditions have been changing so much over the past couple years that what was thought to be crazy before, is now becoming expected!   You could come up with so many creative themes to fit either season. Below are some pros and cons of each season to consider before


Winter:  (Dec. Jan. Feb.)

PROS:  The winter months tend to be a lot cheaper than the rest of the year because these months are in less demand; therefore, it is easier finding wedding vendors like photographers, videographers, and DJ. The vendor’s prices will also be a lot less then in peak months.  Many venues have beautiful fireplaces but would be inappropriate to light up doing summer or other hot months.  Winter couples can fully benefit from the cozy décor such as fireplaces, candles, and the whole winter wonderland theme! Winter itself has a very romantic feel, so why not bring some of that wintery charm into your venue!  Your photographer will snap stunning pictures with the wintery scene as a backdrop. You can also take advantage of shorter days, which means you can hold your ceremony and reception earlier in the day and party longer into the night.

CONS: The main con of winter season is the bad traveling conditions. The awful weather conditions could affect driving time, flights could be delayed or canceled, or worse; your wedding might have to be canceled.  Because of the weather, you might not be able to get the exact flowers you want.  An obvious con is staying warm can be tricky.  You, your fiancé, the whole bridal party, and guests want to get dressed up, and that normally doesn’t include bulky coats, scarves, hats, and gloves.  Even worse, if your venue doesn’t offer a complementary coat check, it’ll be extra costs for you. Something else to keep in mind is all the holiday chaos surrounding your potential date.

Spring: (March, April, May) 

PROS:  These months have the ideal temperatures, depending slightly on where you live.  You have your choice from an inside venue or an outdoor space.  You also have many more options to choose from for floral arrangements.  The chef will be able to prepare a wider variety of fresh vegetables and fruit for your dinner courses. Almost any theme fits into this time of year without feeling out of place.

CONS: These months are huge allergy times for most people, so you might want to offer your guests some tissues, especially if any part of your wedding is going to be outside.  May is one of the peak months which mean peak price.  The weather, especially if you live in New Jersey, is still very unpredictable.  In March, one day it could be snowing, and the next day it could be 75 degree outside. So if you do decide to do tie the knot during this month, it’s best to have some back up plans if any part of your day is outside.

Summer:  (June, July, Aug)

PROS:  During the summer months, again, depending on where you live, the weather is a lot more predictable and traveling is easier for your guests. You can be more confident in holding an outdoor wedding without stressing too much about a backup plan.  These tend to be the calmest months for people with busy schedules compared to the rest of the year so finding availability for guests should be easier.  Unlike the winter months, the selections of flowers for floral arrangements are much larger during this season. You’re able to incorporate your colors and your favorite flowers more so now than any other time during the year.  You also have your choice between inside or outside venue spaces.

CONS:  June is part of wedding peak season so weddings are common and vendors will book up very quickly.  If you’ve decided on a peak season wedding, its best to reserve your venue at least a year or more in advance, especially if you want a Saturday.  If you are planning on doing an outdoor wedding, make sure you set room in your budget for a tent to give your guests some shade from the hot sun.  If you have a lot of guests traveling far distances and need to stay a night or two, hotel rates tend to be higher because most people do they’re traveling during the summertime.

Fall: (Sept. Oct. Nov)

PROS: Fall is a beautiful time to get married because of all the changing leaves, beautiful colors, and weather.  You and your photographer can create some stunning pictures during this time of year.  You are still able to have your choice of an indoor or outdoor wedding.

CONS:  September and October are peak wedding season months so prices will be on the higher side for most venues and vendors.  Your guests’ availability might be shorter because everyone is going back to school and work.  They probably used a chunk of their vacation days during summer and are low on cash so if you do plan on having a fall wedding make sure you give guests a little extra notice so they can plan and save.


As you can see, the season you choice all depends on your own particular taste, your vision for the wedding, and your budget. Happy wedding planning!


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To Money Dance, or Not to Money Dance

First off, what is a money dance?  The money dance is an event that occurs during the wedding reception; male guests pay to dance with the bride briefly and female guests pay to dance with the groom briefly. The amount of $1 is usually given, but could be more if the guest chooses. This brief dance time allows for one on one time to congratulate and chat with the newly married couple.   Certain details vary culture to culture but the main concept is the same.  This tradition began to help the bride and groom pay for their honeymoon, wedding, future home, or first born.  In the United State, guests normally pin the money to the bride’s gown or veil or the maid of honor will hold an apron to collect.  The best man joins in by offering shots of whiskey to participants.
Some couples place a small bowl on each table for guests to leave cash or checks so guests won’t feel obligated to ‘pay’ for face time with the bride or groom.  For those of you that aren’t big on the money aspect of it, there are many different alternatives to this tradition.  Exchanging play money or chewing gum for that brief dance time is a fun alternative.  You could also have a ‘couples dance’ and have everyone switch partners every 15 seconds or so, providing a great way for the newlyweds to mingle. You could do an opposite money dance and instead of receiving money, hand out tiny gifts of appreciation to your guests as they come dance with you.
– It gives the newlyweds an opportunity to make a little extra money to pay for the honeymoon or the wedding.
– It’s another chance for the newlyweds to dance and talk with guests.
– Ability to add in an extra slow song or two where otherwise you wouldn’t have been able to
– You don’t want your guests to feel obligated to spend money.  They’ve already spent money on the shower and wedding gifts, traveling, and outfit expenses.  It’s important to make it clear that the money dance is optional.
– Sometimes guests use opportunities like this to sneak out and call it a night.  I recommend keeping your dance to a 10 minute minimum so you don’t loss too many of your guests or bore the ones that don’t participate.
– Many etiquette experts do consider this tradition tacky and recommend against it
A money cake jar is similar to the money dance but with no dancing. Set up near the cake table are two jars, each labeled with the bride and grooms name.  Guests put money in the jar of the face they wish to see smashed with cake.  Before the cake cutting ceremony begins, the amounts are totaled, and the jar with the highest amount gets a face full of cake!  This is a fun alternative for the couples that don’t like to dance and a cute way to get guests involved.
So if you’re torn between whether to hold a money dance or not, those are the main points you should consider.  If it’s a tradition that your family’s use to; then go for it!  If this is something new to your family, then ask some close family member opinions. Your wedding is your special day and its details like these that personalize the wedding.


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